Have a Merry Christmas!!

The other day, I had a really interesting conversation. I spent time with Robert Strock, who is an incredible psychiatrist, and my friend Phil Hodges. One of the things we talked about that was fascinating was the theory that anger really comes from hidden sadness. If somebody is upset with you, rather than coming back with anger and being upset as well, try this: Quiet yourself, get out your servant heart, and see if you can find out what’s really causing that energy. It’s like peeling back an onion.

So this holiday season, with everybody running around and getting stressed, if somebody gets upset, just quiet yourself and ask if there is anything you can do to help. Just be there for the person and really try to find out where the sadness is coming from. Life is really very interesting if we really take time to get to know each other and be with each other.  So hug somebody this weekend and tell them you love them. Take care, and have a Merry Christmas!

Categories: Commitment, Conflict, Feedback, Happiness, Life, Listening, Love, Relationships, Servant Leadership | 1 Comment

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  1. Hi Ken: love to all the family. These are such wise words, and offer comfort to folks who feel angry, but can’t find a source or reason for it. Uncovering the sadness gives them a chance to tell the truth and take a different action from one they would if they were just “angry.” This realization also puts the power where it can do the most good: in the person’s own hands. All of you are in my heart. Fondly, Shirley

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